Step 2, take care of yourself and become the person who youve always wanted to be. Only God knows how the hell I ripped the waves last year.
Step 3, surround yourself with good, and positive company. Mine, came in the form of an old, long, lost cyber friend. Did I mention she comes with a package Wacky university friends, caring adopted brother and sisters, adorable mother and an old fashion dad. It felt safe to share my time and thoughts with someone I knew since my high school days eventhough the last time I contacted her was in 2007. Gave her an ultimatum that I could only be close friends with her for the remaining year, as I was planning to get married in 2014.
Harsh, I know. But I had no choice as I figured during that time, becoming a husband was the only way forward. Often she asked, How are you going to get married next year when youre spending most
of your time with me
Gasp.
Evaded the question and I was stuck between two options; to ask her for suggestions on any potential wife materials, or to get to know her more. I chose the latter.
The tables have turned. I had all the time in the world to finally get to know the girl who I left in 2007. Time was on my side. Allegedly, but I dont want to flirt with time as the past had taught me, To be in a comfort zone is the most dangerous thing. Finding 1001 reasons why shes not the one. Couldnt find any. She had me when she opened up to me her hopes and dreams. It took me one long drive to Perak for my weekly skimboarding session with the boys before I could finally decide that shes the one. Come to think of it, it seems suicidal to have an idea of offering a marriage to someone you just met 6 days ago. I repeat. 6 days.
Theres a fine line between rushing things off, and things move too fast. To play it safe, when I arrived KL from Perak, I just told her that I like you.
She smiled but remained silent. Theres a
Malay saying that goes, silence means acceptance. The night continued and was filled with smiles. Black out at NCLS. Candles were lighted. Awkward right. But with a person that youre most comfortable with, it feels right. We were left hanging. Only for me to realize I was in the same situation before, but this time, with different intentions. Do things for the sake of God. A simple statement that was cemented upon us since our primary school days. Sadly, I was always ignorant. Not to waste any more time, the seventh day meeting came. Just before I was about to send her off, I popped the suggestion. Or, intention. I want to marry you, to take care of you, and spend the rest of my life with you. Clich Ive heard worst. No questions needed. We both cried. She said, Thank you. We both smiled and I drove off knowing that Im going to see her the next day with concrete answer. Arrogant, eh Wait.
It took her two nights to give a straight answer. But when she did, it felt like I was on top of the world.
Alhamdulillah.
Fast forward 9 months, here I am on my way back from work, buying fresh milk for my wife who is waiting for me with her hugs and kisses.
God is great.
